Valentine’s Day is already around the corner. So instead of doing a typical “Which Zodiac Sign are you most compatible?”, I decided to go a slightly different route. I want to talk about how to best impress someone on a first date. No matter if you are a man/woman/nonbinary and no matter if you are Heterosexual or a part of the LGBTQ+ community. If it’s what they want, everyone deserves a chance at love and experience the pure happiness that comes with it.
So here we go! Let’s say you finally got that first date! It’s just around the corner! You’re maybe feeling both nervous and excited. That’s ok! You’re completely normal! Do you happen to know your date’s birthday or Zodiac Sign? Perfect! Then feel free to scroll down to find your Zodiac date and learn how to impress them based on their Zodiac Sun Sign! If you do not know, that’s ok, too. Feel free to look through to find some good ideas if you have a basic idea of your date’s personality or interests. Also, I will add some generic “successful first date tips” at the end that should cover everyone. So, take a deep breath, relax, and let’s enjoy learning together!
Aries (March 21 – April 20)
Got a crush on an Aries? Exciting! No, really, it will be exciting! Buckle up and be ready for a memorable time! Typically, people under these Signs are not interested in the cliché date, such as grabbing a cup of coffee or having dinner followed by a trip to the movie theater. If you do end up hungry and do need to grab a bite to eat, try taking them to something new or the latest trendy place in the area. Ideally it should be a place where they haven’t been before so it will keep their interest. In general, try suggesting a more stimulating or thrilling date. If you’re near a theme park, drop by there and try some of the faster rides! If that’s not available, maybe try something else unconventional like roller skating, bowling, or go dancing. As long as it keeps them moving! A big goal is that it grasps their attention. Have them focus and alert on the date. Otherwise, it’s possible for an Aries to quickly move on to another date or with a different crush. Have fun with this date! An Aries is a great Sign to get to know and to experience the excitements of life together!
Taurus (April 21 – May 20)
You have a date with a Taurus… Take a deep breath and relax, for your date will move along slowly. This Bull doesn’t mind taking the time to graze upon the grass (figuratively speaking, of course… unless you’re dating an actual bull.). Like a large Bull, a Taurus values commitment and stability. They typically don’t want to take the next big steps unless they feel secure and confident that this relationship is mutual. So make sure they know you’re sure of your feelings towards them. Once they can confirm and feel assured on their own feelings, too, then further action may take place. This Earth Sign enjoys the pleasures found on Earth. So try to focus on things involving the Big 2: food and the arts. For the arts, that encompasses everything from music, dance concerts, museums, or an art gallery. Consider take them to a concert of someone they know and like if the musician is in town. Or maybe take them to the local museum to view the latest featured exhibits. A stereotypical Taurus has refined taste or likes the luxurious things in life. So try to impress them! As the saying goes, “Dress to impress.” Your date will focus on appearances. Perhaps take them to a posh or high-class restaurant with a good view. Try taking them to a classical music concert if they’re into that. Don’t have the budget for any of that? That’s ok. You can put in the effort to recreate a fancy date. Dress up in the best outfit you have in your closet, get some candles, grab those champagne glasses that are probably dusty in your cupboard, and take them somewhere for a “fancy” dinner with soft, calming instrumental music playing in the background. Your date should take note of your efforts. But be careful, if the food or the music is distasteful, they’ll make a mental note of it.
Gemini (May 21 – June 21)
So you have a crush on a Gemini. They may bring about a mystical and magical time! A Gemini is typically easy to connect with. Even if you’re introverted, it should be relatively easy to start building that connection. This Sign finds excitement in building new relationships, so they are masters of active listening and able to contribute to conversations with ease. However! You must be genuine and honest. Geminis are the #1 Sign when it comes to communication, so, in theory, can connect with them. It’s up to you to be yourself and build that bond organically. Try to drop some pieces of information about yourself over multiple dates so they want to come back to you for more. If you tell them everything on the first date, they might get bored, see nothing new to learn about you from there, come to a quick conclusion that they learned all they need to know, become not interested, and, as a result, leave the relationship. If you try put up a mask (as if you’re afraid of being the “real” you) for the first date and think you’re successful and complete more dates with them with that mask, be warned! Geminis will figure out that you’re not being authentic. Discovering that, they may move on and end up “ghosting” you in the future. So don’t bother trying, please. Be yourself. If a Gemini learns about the real you and becomes attracted to you, they will return and stay a while!
Cancer (June 22 – July 22)
Got a first date set up with someone with a Cancer Sign? The symbol for this Zodiac Sign is a Crab or Crustacean, and you can remind yourself of this when you try to remember what their basic personality may resemble. Like a Crab, these people enjoy staying tucked securely in their “shells,” or safe spaces. So if you were able to get a Cancer to crawl away from relaxing at home and out with a date with you, wow! That’s usually a Sign that they may already be attracted to you. Congratulations! Cancers are typically quite introverted (thus wanting to stay in their “shells”), so they may be nervous or shy about doing something different or outside their comfort zone. If you suggest the first date to take place at a club or a rave, you should be prepared for an instantaneous “No.” Please don’t push it. Suggest meeting them someplace more relaxed, casual, and comfortable. For example, suggest meeting them some afternoon at a nearby coffeeshop, a movie theater that’s playing a movie they might like, or have a relaxed dinner at a local restaurant, nothing super fancy. Cancers want to know that you’re serious about them and building a relationship. And they will wait until they are 110% sure you’re really interested in them before they take further steps. As a result, be expected to do the bulk of the work in first establishing interest, such as making date plans, texting them first, etc. It may seem one-sided in the beginning but be patient. It will be worth the wait when a Cancer decides they’re committed and finally show their deep devotion, kindheartedness, and passion towards the relationship.
Leo (July 23 – August 23)
You interested in dating a Leo? Awesome! A Leo is typically confident, loud, and proud of their special attributes. Make sure that when you first meet them on your date that you compliment on their appearance a bit. Point out something you think looks nice, like their hair, outfit, accessories, anything! They’re more likely to be very interested in you in return If you flatter them. Of course, Leos are not completely superficial! Once they like you and are in a relationship with you, they will love you generously. But be sure to repay their indulgence in you by praising them. On this first date, be sure to ask about their likes/dislikes, what they do for work/hobbies, etc. They will yak, yak, yak about themselves. However, be sure to actively listen! Respond in a way to show that you were actually paying attention to what they were saying. Ideally, it would be beneficial if you were able to take what they were saying and add to the conversation by bragging about yourself a little! Make yourself stand out so this Lion can notice you and want to know you more. A Leo will want to hang out and be with someone who has at least an equal level of distinguishing characteristics. Leos are silly and enjoy flirting, both as someone doing the flirting and as someone on the receiving end. So try to lightly tease and flirt with them since they find it quite enticing and attractive!
Virgo (August 24 – September 23)
You have a first date with a Virgo. While they may not seem like it, but they are probably secretly very nervous while with you. In fact, they might be so nervous that they’ll be trying their hardest to be sure to present the perfect first impression and not make any mistakes. Hopefully you don’t find your date too intimidating. Just think to yourself, they are probably more afraid about making a negative first impression with you than you are intimidated by them. However, this doesn’t mean you get to slack off and take it too easy. You must be on your best behavior, mind your language, and watch your manners. While Virgos may be nervous, they still have really high standards, so you should try to show that you can meet that to at least a great degree, if not completely. This Zodiac Sign has a gift of noticing all the little details in everything. So they’ll take note if you’re not careful in your speech or behavior. Here’s some little tips that they may notice! Try opening the door for them when entering/leaving a restaurant. When you’re done eating, make sure to neatly stack your plates and utensils for the server. Also, if you live in a country that does tips, be sure to tip your server quite generously! There are all good signs to a Virgo that you are considerate and compassionate towards others.
Libra (September 24 – October 23)
Do you have a Libra crush? Libras like to keep their options open, just in case. So it’s possible you won’t be the only first date they’ll have in this time frame. They tend to question themselves, “But what if there’s someone better out there?” As a result, they may struggle with commitment. If you don’t impress them enough and this Libra finds someone cuter or more interesting, they may move on and leave you behind. It’ll be ok! You just need to be sure to have a positive impact. Libras can be considered natural dating experts and have ease with flirting and having fun. They’ll probably take good care in their appearance and be open to a good time doing new things. During the date, they may be masters of conversation and never leave you bored. Libras naturally tend to leave a lasting first impression (and usually a good one!). Try to do the same and be yourself, too! It should be a fun date.
Scorpio (October 24 – November 22)
Do not be intimidated on your date with the mysterious Scorpio. They tend to be a little intimidating, but you might end up enjoying this nervous feeling since their magnetic aura keeps drawing you in for more. Just remember that it’ll be fine. A Scorpio usually uses the first date to gather as much information as possible from you to see who you are as a person and if you’d be a good fit for them. For example, they might have you make the decisions such as where and what you do for the date. Just remember to be yourself since that is who a Scorpio wants to know. After the date, it’s not uncommon for a Scorpio to “disappear” for a couple days and not respond to an initial text from you. Just text them a second time. These Scorpions are just trying to see if you are really interested in them or not. Of course, if they are not interested, they won’t reply at all. However, if they are still interested, they should reply after the few texts from you first. If you get through this initial testing phase, a relationship with them should progress quickly. Once things fall into place and you two become a couple, a Scorpio will be completely devoted to you and provide you with loyalty, honesty, and a sense of sanctuary or a safe space.
Sagittarius (November 23 – December 21)
Have a crush on a Sagittarius? You got this! This particular Zodiac Sign is well known for their habit of ghosting, even if they only get bored for a short amount of time. Even with a first date, they typically expect every experience to be mentally stimulating. Appearances are not nearly as important as something that expands their minds. On your date, try to keep putting the ball in their court so they are constantly on their toes mentally. Ask them if they would enjoy an outing to go hiking. Maybe they want to try a new bar or a hipster café that opened recently. During the date, ask this Archer questions about their interests or hobbies. They’ll get excited talking about it so be prepared for a stretch of non-stop, uninterrupted enthusiasm! For you, give them a taste of some of your mysterious, vague interests and of your experiences and knowledge. But don’t give it all away yet! You want this Archer to be curious and want to spend more time with you to learn more!
Capricorn (December 22 – January 20)
You were able to set up a first date with a Capricorn. Congratulations! If they are going out to meet up with you, then it can be a huge sign that they are already very interested in you. Capricorns are not usually into hooking up or flirting on a superficial level. So don’t expect that. Whatever you do, do not cancel last minute, become wishy-washy, or, even worse, stand them up. You can pretty much forget any potential for a relationship with them at that point! When you are ready for your date, be sure to keep up your appearance since Capricorns tend to closely observe how you present yourself. Also, choose a nice place for a date, like a fancy restaurant or a place with a beautiful view. At first, when you converse you may find yourself talking a lot about work. You may even notice that your date is doing more listening than talking. It may seem superficial or bland, but Capricorns are actually analyzing a lot about you from this mundane conversation. When you speak, they tend to figure out how you talk and how you come across as a person. When you talk about work, they’re trying to see if you’re dedicated, ambitious, or have an acceptable career path or aspirations. For stereotypical Capricorns, reputation and social standing are quite important. As a result, they must choose wisely with whom they want to be in a relationship. When these Goats start talking about family, friends, or more personal information, that’s when you start to see that sturdy exterior start to shed. Be patient, and, if chosen, Capricorns can be the compassionate, thoughtful, and affectionate partner you’ve been crossing your fingers in coming across!
Aquarius (January 21 – February 18)
You have a first date with an Aquarius. This Zodiac Sign tends to be outgoing and friendly and can greet you with the biggest smile and hug. On the date, they’ll immediately start to ask you about anything about you and they’ll want to know everything. Everything from your job, your interests, to your favorite color. In return, they’ll chat away about their hobbies or what they’re into lately. And they’ll do so shamelessly, even if it’s something other people might find a bit embarrassing or random. However, when they talk away, they do it in such an enthusiastic, unconventional, and charming way! An Aquarius needs mental stimulation, so be prepared for engaging conversations. For example, on the date an Aquarius may talk about some random TV series, an unknown band, or the latest conspiracy theory. If you go to a movie theater for the date, they might provide commentary throughout the film. As you can gather, an Aquarius loves to talk. In fact, if things don’t seem to “click” between the two of you, they may be more likely to ask you straight up to just be friends. No matter what, a date with an Aquarius is sure to be a fun one!
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
Got a crush on a Pisces and ready for that first date? Just remember that their heart is in the right place, even if they’re running a bit late or not being so precise in their actions. These Fish are as deep as the ocean itself and will be looking to see if you are heartfelt, complex, and wise. Be honest. Be yourself. They have strong intuition and will know if you’re faking it. During the date, don’t bother with small talk. Pisces tend to space out, so you must keep them engaged. You’ll know if they’re listening if they are making eye contact and not turning their attention to their surroundings. Try this little tip! When the date is over and you are about to part ways for the day, give them a nice compliment last minute. It’ll leave a lasting impression and when they replay it in their minds, they’ll probably find their heart fluttering and they may be blushing.
**Disclaimer! Of course, even if someone is a particular Zodiac Astrology Sign, it doesn’t guarantee that it’ll be a perfect description of your date’s personality. This just follows a typical description of the Zodiac Sign. Many factors can impact a person’s personality, including their Moon Sign, Rising Sun Sign, upbringing, and experiences, etc. If your first date doesn’t turn out the way you wanted, that’s ok! Maybe it wasn’t meant to be? Maybe you can try again? Hang in there! Many people support you, whether you know it or not!**
General First Date Tips!
It’s ok if you don’t know someone’s Zodiac Sign right off the bat. I added some generic tips for your exciting first date, just in case it can be a little bit useful!
BE ON TIME! This can be a potentially huge turn-off for someone. Being late on a first date is a bad first impression. Try to respect their time and plan ahead accordingly. Give yourself extra time to get ready beforehand or to travel to your destination. By being on time, you are showing your date that you take them seriously and appreciate the time they’re taking out of their day to be with you.
Try to make a good first impression. Unfortunately, whether we try to look past it or not, first impressions do make an impact on our opinions on someone. When we first meet someone, we can immediately make subconscious judgments such as: “How attractive is this person?” “How nice/friendly is this person?” “How reliable is this person?” So when you first greet them, try to remember to relax, smile, look at them in the eyes, stand up straight with confidence. If you shake hands, do so firmly with confidence and genuine excitement, and if they lean in for a hug, reciprocate in a polite, gentle manner.
Have interactive conversation, don’t make it an interview. Follow this simple formula:
- Ask open-ended questions to avoid yes/no answers.
- Reply with a statement/comment. Either show interest or express an opinion on what they said.
- *optional* Follow-up with another open-ended question referencing what they just said.
Here’s a good example of a basic conversation that allows you to (1) get to know your date, and (2) build some connection with something you potentially have in common.
- Person 1: “What would you say has been your greatest achievement?”
- Person 2: “Oh, that’s tough, let me think… maybe when I FINALLY graduated with my Bachelors Degree.”
- Person 1: “I know what you mean, it took me 5 years to get my degree. Where did you go to school and what did you study?”
- Person 2: “I went to the University of Toronto and studied French. What about you?”
- Person 1: “Oh, wow, French! Fancy! I must admit I’m terrible at learning languages. I actually went to Kingsborough Community College for Computer Science.”
- Person 2: “Oh, that’s cool. My parents wanted me to go to school for Computer Science, but I really wanted to do French.”
See? Not too bad, right? I would probably say the key is to try to find something about your date that you both have in common. That would provide the gateway for more laid-back conversation since you’d both have a lot to contribute on the subject. Don’t have any ideas on what to talk about? Here are some basics:
- Build on what you already know. How did you meet your date or who set you two up together? Do you know what they do for a living? You can start there.
- Ask them if they’ve been to the place you’re going to together for your date.
- What do they do for work? Do they have any hobbies?
- Ask them about their family or friends.
- Where are they from?
- What are their favorite things to do?
- Do they travel? Where have they been? Where would they like to go?
If you need, try to rehearse the conversation starters in your head beforehand. That way you’ll seem more prepared and personally feel more confident during the actual date. Of course, it’s a big bonus if your date is good at conversation so you don’t have to “pull teeth” or do all of the work in getting to know each other.
At the end of the date, when you’re parting ways, be sure to do these 3 things:
- Say “Thank You” for their time and the date itself. It can be as simple as, “Thanks for meeting me today. I had a lot of fun.” Genuine gratitude doesn’t hurt anybody.
- No matter if the date was a disaster, please be kind. You’ll look good if you are respectful and kind throughout the entire date, even when it’s over. Treat your date as you would like to be treated.
- *optional* If you feel both you and your date are interested, go ahead, and bring up setting up a time for another date right then before they leave.
- But if your date is hesitating or not interested and says they’ll get back to you, let them go. Don’t push it and make them feel uncomfortable if they’re not ready. You can always text them later.
- If you’re not interested in another date, don’t give them false hope. If that makes you too nervous or if you want to protect yourself first for safety reasons, tell them that you’ll let them know and gently turn them down later. Otherwise, you can be upfront, honest, and caring, “Hey, it was great to meet you, but I don’t think we’re a good fit for each other. I hope you find someone that’s perfect for you.”
And probably the most important piece of advice: BE YOURSELF!!! Everything is going to be ok. Your date wants to know you and the real you. It’s one thing to try to impress your date (which is perfectly fine!), but it’s another thing to lie outright or stretch truths about yourself. Besides, you want to be with someone who wants to be with you because you are who you are. You want that partner to accept all parts of you, the good and the not ideal. Otherwise, the whole relationship could be based on an illusion, which is not fair to not only your partner, but it’s not fair to you.
Wow! I know that was a lot of information that it probably seems overwhelming! It’s ok. Take a deep breath. Take your time and do what comes naturally. Don’t push yourself too hard and know you can leave the date at any time that works for you. It’s going to be all right. I believe in you. You have something special to offer someone that no one else can. Also, try to stop any negative self talk. You are worthy of love.
“Don’t look at your feet to see if you are doing it right. Just dance.”
– Anne Lamott
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